What is a Bosslady exactly? Well according to the urban dictionary, it is “a woman in control, taking charge of her own circumstances in work & life. Someone who knows her worth and won’t accept anything less. She is empowering and inspiring to those around her. She kicks ass!”. I’ll be meeting a different women every month to discuss fashion, self-love and ambitions to show that we can all be a bosslady whatever our appearance or background. It’s about believing in ourselves, and choosing to make our own rules or break some. These woman choose to do so.
I present you Nikki Orza – this sassy 30 year old is an Internal Communications, Engagement and Event manager at ASOS. Nikki lives in the UK and recently married her soulmate Joe Orza in Vegas… Who said we can’t have it all?
F A S H I O N
How would you describe your style?
Nikki O – it sounds obnoxious, but I dress in line with my body type and personality… if I’m wearing an outfit that’s getting a lot of love, the love is usually followed by “that’s such a Nikki O outfit” which I of course take as a compliment… although now I say it, perhaps I should rethink that one. For me, I think having a confident mother who always encouraged me to just do me gave me the confidence to do just that; so my style is ‘just me doing me’.
Who are your style muses ?
I don’t really have style muses, as a cute top on someone else might not be so cute on me. I just love seeing people dress for themselves and owning their vibe… that’s inspiring!
What’s your favourite item in your wardrobe?
Tailored Black Blazer – it’s an absolute classic and always my go to… you can dress it up with a red lip and heels, or go for the effortlessly chic vibe with trainers and a slogan tee.
What are the 3 items you can’t leave home without?
Sunglasses, Laptop and Purse; if I’ve got those three things, I can go anywhere, work from anywhere and if the sun comes out, stay sass too!
What are your favorite brands ?
I don’t shop by brand so couldn’t say. An amazing piece could be from a top designer or low key market stall, if I like it, I’ll buy it… My wardrobe is a mix of labels from all over the place.
S E L F L O V E
Tell us your journey of self-love?
For me, self love is about honesty, acceptance and absolute equality. I’m honest with myself, I accept myself and most of all, I believe in absolute equality. You see, if you don’t think you’re better than anyone else, and really believe that indeed no one else is better than you (because we’re all equal right, we’re all human beings)… then you can discover and understand yourself objectively and without the insecurities that come with comparing yourself to others… once I did that, I could enjoy being me, I found the confidence to rebel against what society told me to think, how to dress, how to act, what to believe in, what’s appropriate and what success looks like… I had the confidence to love myself for the person that I am, flawed, honest, rebellious, hardworking, kind, and loyal.
When do you feel the most confident? and/or What do you do to feel confident?
So I get asked all the time, where do you get your confidence, why are you so confident… it’s not so much confidence, but again… my belief in absolute equality.
Do you dress to cover any part of your body or to show off parts of your body?
So I’m in a catch 22… I like my waistline but not so much my stomach (I mean, not enough to cut the wine out, but enough to be tactful with my styling, or at least try to you know) – usually similar clothing highlights or hides the two simultaneously… but I’ve picked up a couple of tricks along the way… i.e. a loose tee with high-waisted anything, or a wrap dress/jumpsuit and I’m good… stomach hidden, waistline on show; don’t forget the red lips (just, well… because) and I’m good to go!
What is the thing you’re tired of people asking you?
What are you! I get that question ALL the time… I think being mixed race, of Caribbean heritage with properly ginger hair, the pale complexion to match and green eyes has people thrown… but I usually answer hungry, tipsy, in the mood for bowling or something facetious just for the laughs.
B O S S L A D Y
What does it means to you to be a Bosslady?
Getting s**t done! A Bosslady has nothing to do with profession or work, it’s about how you live your life, both in and out of work… knowing your value and getting s**t done. A Bosslady is a good role model, because it isn’t about cutting corners or status, it’s about hard work, understanding, drive, ambition, not settling and keeping it moving, but not necessarily for success or social acceptance… but rather, happiness and personal fulfilment. A Bosslady will naturally have influence, so it’s important to have a level of self-awareness too… my advice, always stay true to you.
What are you most proud of?
My life journey so far… it’s been a ride and the best is yet to come.
Who are your biggest role models ?
My grandmother, she moved to the UK from Jamaica over 50 years ago and has built a life for not only herself, but for four generations since… these were times when being a black woman in England was very different to how it is today; but her kind heart, acceptance of others and relentless hard work led her to build an independent life for herself that not only provided comfort and a home to my mother and wider family, but inspired us all and still does to this day. My grandmother is my role model, she’s my queen.
What are your ambitions for 2018?
To get another feature on your blog of course #FromParisWithCurves
What would you like to ask me ?
As a role model for women with curves, what’s your key message, your motto?